Monday, August 27, 2012

Define Your Own Success

Recently our Fayetteville LLLI Leader, Betony suggested a book to me called Defining Your Own Success. This book is about breastfeeding challenges after a breast reduction surgery, which I've not had. The point is- it's a book on overcoming a breastfeeding challenge that's beyond your control.
In my case, Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome or PCOS (a really lame hormonal thing that effects 1 in 10 women).
It pisses me off to say the least. I won't go into detail, because it's moot and perhaps way too TMI but it's been an issue since I was a teen. It gives women a hard time in several ways including fertility and also in some women, breastfeeding.
Couldn't do anything about it when Dr. Seale confirmed it while I was pregnant, however now that he's arrived we can start a plan of action.
I can deal with the symptoms, I just hate that it may be effecting my milk supply.
So I've been doing some research on latch, input/output, average weight gain for an infant, comfort nursing, sleeping while feeding, feeding times etc. and I'm feeling a HUGE sense of relief. Like 100 lbs off my shoulders, hallelujah our boy is gonna be OK kind of relief.
Thank you dear sweet, sweet,, etc. you are too kind and generous. What in the world would we do with out the Internet and this vast amount of information? Not to mention my dearest friends who have been there to answer all my crazy questions.

The point of all my rambling is this: We're defining our own success. Truman is currently one week "free" of from formula.
However, tomorrow I go in for my appointment and I have to leave Truman with my mom in the waiting room, and I am so scared he's going to scream and cry the entire time we are there. So we're going to pack a bottle to keep him happy.

After breastfeeding our little one we only have about a 20-30 minute window of him being content. Then the crying begins and the only way to soothe him is by feeding him all over again.

I thought maybe he wasn't eating enough a day but his output is like 6-8 wets and 2 very impressive poops a day.
I thought maybe I had a fore/hindmilk imbalance but his stools are not green or frothy.

So I think this is what we've got:
We've got a sleepy, high-needs baby who loves to nurse and be held (preferably by momma). He also seems to have quite a bit of gas. On the other side of the coin we've got a mom who seems to be making enough milk, may be a little slow on the flow, but seems to be doing well... And is a bit high-needs herself.
I'm not totally sure why we find ourselves nursing so much, so all we are doing is taking one moment at a time, enjoying the closeness and know that this won't last forever.

I want to close with a very happy one month birthday to our little guy!

Also T-mans birth announcements are done!

Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Four Weeks Young!

I can't believe our lil man is four weeks today! We weighed him last night and he weighs 8 lbs 5 oz and 22.5" long now!
We've noticed he's changed in his face (cheeks mostly) and is beefing up in interesting places like his belly, hands and feet.

We've still got a couple of hurdles to cross-

I'm pretty sure I am a walking, talking pacey. When he nurses he would nurse an hour on each side if I let him. I'm not really sure how to fix this, I'm hoping this is a newborn thing and he'll eventually be interested in other things.
We've been trying a pacey with very little luck, especially if I'm the one trying to give it to him.
I'm certain this is why we're nursing almost constantly.

Found this on
“You are not a pacifier; you are a Mom. You are the sun, the moon, the earth, you are liquid love, you are warmth, you are security, you are comfort in the very deepest aspect of the meaning of comfort…. but you are not a pacifier!” — Paula Yount

(made me cry)

Comfort nursing link

Next potential problem-

He does not want to be put down. He sleeps his absolute best when he's in my lap (latched or not). Same with night time. I don't know if this is a problem though, I don't really mind it. :)

Definitely a problem-

When he seems starving, and I just have nothing left for him, we give him a supplement of formula (1oz). After the bottle and properly burped we've got a content little guy, I can get dinner ready and do a bit around the house.
But shortly after that it's a whole new ballgame. He is miserable, crying, squirming, trying his best to find some relief. I end up nursing him because it's the only way we've found to stop his crying. This goes on until bedtime.
It's even the sensitive/gas & fussiness type.
Our game plan is to only supplement if absolutely necessary, and do this with the little bit of expressed milk I've been getting at night (2-3oz).
I'm really hoping to up my stash for him soon. Any tips are greatly appreciated. I only get 1/4 oz after feeding him (yikes).

Some small solutions we've found-

Sitting up seems to really help with his gas. I put him in the boppy, or up on some pillows and he does quite a bit of burping, tooting and sometimes if we're lucky... Well you know...

Also it's too inconsistent to tell but we've tried gripe water and gas drops for some relief.
I've been told this gassiness extreme slows down majorly after six weeks?
Fingers crossed!

Since T likes to be sitting up from time to time he also seems to like the "magic baby hold" and so far, the sling! We take mini-trips to the mailbox and he seems to like it!

Also we did a swaddle last night for a couple hours after eating. T fell asleep, I laid him down and he slept swaddled for a bit. James noticed he was waking up and held him while swaddled, and he slept for 45 minutes. I got a lot done in his room and got to recharge a little. Very exciting!

I hope my post doesn't come off as one big Debbie Downer. We definitely have some small things to work on, but they are small and we're lucky as can be to have a healthy baby boy.

*one more crazy lip sleeping party pic

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

three weeks old!

Happy 3-Weeks Baby Boy!
I had this very long, gut spilling blog about my challenges with my supply and not satisfying our son.
And I seriously accidentally deleted it. Very depressing as I don't get too much free time to blog.

Here's hoping this madness was just a 3-week growth spurt. Today is a better day. He's sleeping more & going a little longer between feedings... Today.

my 1st work shirts

daddy loves me

Truman & Berkley

Mommom & her newest great-grandbabies

Berkley & Truman!

Monday, August 13, 2012

Tru View {Day 20}

We might just make it---

I don't know. She keeps me in a diaper most of the time... I'm still wearing newborn clothes and diapers (even though I pee out of them sometimes).
I mean I don't hate clothes... She's lazy.

Let's see what else...

I'm sleeping like a champ at night!
For now...

Also, my umbilical cord stump came off and mom immediately threw me in the big boy tub! Which I loved...

Except the whole getting out thing.

I got to meet more family this weekend! Met Aunt Sarah and she tried to kidnap me!

I also met Aunt Brandy & Cousin Colby (CC) they can't believe how much I nurse!!

It's a full time job :)

Another adorable sleeping baby pic...
Complete with clothing!

How freaking cute are these Onesie's my co-worker had made?!

Sunday, August 5, 2012

Tru view {day 10}

From the view of Truman...

I'm learning that all I have to do is whine a little and someone will shoosh me, swoosh me, sing to me, walk me, bounce me. Or if I really keep going mom will stick a boob in my mouth.

Dad is much better at giving these "supplement" bottles than mom is.

Both mom and dad aren't so bad at changing diapers now.

They SUCK at sponge baths.

Will they ever learn how to burp me?

I hate onesies. Can you say putting your head through the birthing canal all over again?!

My gas puts mom, dad & hank to shame.

Speaking of Hank, can you say JEALOUS?!

PS I loooooove boobies.

Thursday, August 2, 2012

The Baby Whisperer

Yesterday was Truman's Newborn Photo shoot day!
Tonya Reeves could give Cesar Millan a run for his money on being the whisperer of anything! It was amazing watching her in action with Truman, her patience and grace was phenomenal. I'd seriously hire her to help me with the little man in an instant! Sadly she is super busy with a photography business, husband and three kids under six of her own to keep her busy everyday!

Tonya's magic in action-

She worked with us for four hours and got several amazing shots!!
I can't even begin to describe her process all I know is i'm pretty sure I held my breath for four hours straight, helped when needed and otherwise got the hell out of the way.

For more details on Tonya Reeves you can find her on Facebook: Tonya Reeves Photography!